The chapter on communication provided some
ideas for improving communication. Are any of these ideas helpful to you? For
the blog this week, make 1 post of 200 words or 2 of 100 words each. You can
also comment or expand on another student's posting.
You can describe how you plan to apply some of
the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss,
friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
What is your personality type and how does it
affect your personal communication style?
You can also read the scenarios below and
use your knowledge of personality type to suggest ways to improve the
communication. For a quick review of personality type, click on Do What You Are
on the front page of your portfolio on CollegeScope. You can comment on
one or more of the scenarios. Remember
to think about personality type and how it influences communication as you
write your comments.
Scenario 1 (E and I):
Mary and Carol are roommates and are
discussing paying bills for the apartment that they share. Mary is upset
because Carol paid the phone bill late. The more that Mary talks, the quieter
Carol becomes. This causes Mary to become even more upset. Mary starts talking
in a loud voice and Carol leaves the room. How can they improve communication?
Scenario 2 (S and N):
A sensing type and an intuitive type are on a
first date. What is each likely to talk about?
Scenario 3 (T and F):
Rachel and Jim have been married about a year. Rachel complains to Jim that he never says, "I love you" anymore. Jim replies that he would not have married Rachel if he didn't love her. How can they improve communication?
Scenario 4 (J and P):
Students in a business class are assigned as a
group project to design a business plan. This is an evening class and has
mostly adults who have busy schedules with work, family and school. Mike is a
highly motivated student who wants to get the group organized and complete the
project quickly. Mike is getting irritated at John because he cannot decide on
a topic and get going. John keeps coming up with different creative ideas for
the business plan. John is getting irritated at Mike because he thinks that
Mike is trying to control the group. How can this group work together to
complete a successful project?
You can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteThis chapter is wonderful and has very powerful ways to improve communication. I will apply these pullets in my future to improve my communication. Even though I consider myself as a good communicator, still from this chapter, I have learned many powerful ways. As it’s mentioned we have two ears and one mouth so we should listen more than talk. (Chapter 10) I am going to apply these method such as listening more than talking. I never realize that because sometimes I just love to talk without knowing how much I spent talking. I think people don’t really like that buy no one’s telling us, however, reading this chapter got my attention and thought my a good lesson. So, I will always talk less and listen more to gain more knowledge and understand that questions better. Also, I will not you the “You” or the might, should. I will you a strong statement away from the “You” and away from might.
The most effective communication is understanding the speech first, and pause for seconds and reapply. So, using less words, asking clear questions, and using powerful statement, will improve my communication. Away from the any conflicts.
My personality type is introvert. I think my personality type might affect others who has a different type of personality, not everyone, but some. Because sometimes our lives or jobs make us deal with it. So, I have to be careful with others who don’t understand my personally. For an example, i met someone new, she kept talking all day long, and when she asked me I only answered with view words, as a result, she thought I was not interesting at all. She just stop talking to me because she thought that I hurt her. As a matter of fact, I really liked her but because of our personality was different, she did not understand me right, and that affected her.
Aladdin
Hi Aladdin,
DeleteYou got our discussion off to a great start. I like how you mentioned the importance of listening first before speaking. It is a very powerful technique and if everyone used it, we would all communicate better. I am also an introvert and find it difficult to communicate with people who talk too much. I like to think about a topic before I talk about it. Hopefully your comments will help others communicate better. Keep up the good work!
First, allow me to thank you for everything. Where i come from, we have so much respect for our teacher. Second, I have learned many things in your class. Your feedback made me motive it.
DeleteThank you
I apologize for my spelling.
DeleteYou can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteI thought that this chapter was really good and insightful. It gave me different ways to communicate with different types of people and their personalities. I am guilty of talking over someone when they are trying to tell me something whether its during an argument or even them telling me about something that happened to me. I need to work on being a better listener and staying clear of any distractions while I am hearing someone out. I also liked how this chapter gave us different ways to approach things such as avoid saying "you" and putting the blame on someone by simply changing it up and using an " I". It's true and after reading that it made sense. Just by changing up the way something is being phrased communication between each other changes.
Great comments on improving communication. Listening first is really helpful as well as avoiding "you" statements. Keep up the good work in this class!
DeleteHi Heather,
DeleteGrowing up with many people made me talk lot. Yes, we talk more than we listen, but remember live teach us lot. So, its not a big issue that you facing but try to reduce your talk. I found out in my life and during my work experience as a communicator or interpreter that listening is way stronger than talking. I hope this can help you, and don't feel guilty. As i mentioned we learn new things every day.
Best luck
Aladdin
Mary and Carol are roommates and are discussing paying bills for the apartment that they share. Mary is upset because Carol paid the phone bill late. The more that Mary talks, the quieter Carol becomes. This causes Mary to become even more upset. Mary starts talking in a loud voice and Carol leaves the room. How can they improve communication?
ReplyDeleteAfter reading this scenario, I think that they both need to work on communicating with each other better. Carol needs to speak up and Mary needs to allow Carol to talk and be a listener. Also the way Carol might be talking could be causing problems the message may be "sent but it is not being "received" by Carol.
Scenario 1 (E and I):
ReplyDeleteMary and Carol are roommates and are discussing paying bills for the apartment that they share. Mary is upset because Carol paid the phone bill late. The more that Mary talks, the quieter Carol becomes. This causes Mary to become even more upset. Mary starts talking in a loud voice and Carol leaves the room. How can they improve communication?
In chapter 10, it discusses ways to help communicate better. Some helpful suggestions in this chapter, I think will improve their discussion. Mary is talking too much and she is not allowing Carol to speak up. Since Mary is yelling, Carol doesn't have any time to speak. Mary should tell Carol why she is upset and then ask her why the phone bill was paid late. After asking this, then Carol can explain why she paid the bill late.
Scenario 2 (S and N):
A sensing type and an intuitive type are on a first date. What is each likely to talk about?
Chapter 10 says that in a dating situation, the sensing type focuses on actual experience. A sensor will describe the date in terms of what his or her companion looked like, how the food tasted, how the music sounded, and the feelings involved. During the date, sensors may talk about concrete events such as people they have known, experiences they have had, and places they have visited. Sensing types are generally on time for the date and get irritated if the other person is late. In social situations such as dating, the intuitive person starts to fantasize and imagine what it is going to be like before it begins. The fantasies are often more exciting than the actual date. Sensing types sometimes have difficulty following the conversation. Intuitive types are less worried about being exactly on time. They believe that time is flexible and may not be on time for the date, much to the annoyance of sensing types. In conflict situations, intuitive types like to make broad generalizations. When sensing types remind them of the facts, they may accuse them of nitpicking.
Good suggestions for Mary and Carol. Extroverts need to calm down and slow down to improve communication with introverts. Good job!
DeleteEach individual has a different approach to the date conversation topics in Scenario 2. The sensor personality of the duo will make conversation by talking about interesting places they have visited or personal experiences they want to share with their partner. An example of this would be talking about a vacation in the redwood forests of Northern California. The intuitive personality would discuss ideas and abstract topics like dreams or social norms that do not seem so normal. For instance, in reply to the topic of redwood forests, the intuitive person would reply with how strange it is that society has distanced itself from something as beautiful as nature itself, the place where we lived before global industrialization. Tangents like this might take the sensor by surprise and they might not know how to react.
ReplyDeleteFor Scenario 3, Rachel and Jim need to realize they have different personality types, causing them to express affection in different ways. For Rachel, Jim can reassure her that he still loves her by doing little things such as surprising her with a romantic dinner when she comes home or sending flowers to her work. He can take little steps to show he loves Rachel without actually saying “I love you.” Rachel needs to realize that Jim is a thinker, he married her because logically, if you truly love someone, you marry them. If Rachel believed that Jim would change his “unaffectionate” behavior when they got married, she probably should not have married him. She cannot change how Jim is as a person. Rachel is feeling insecure and Jim needs to be there for her. After Jim takes action to reassure Rachel of his love for her, they should gain a better understanding of their relationship dynamic and learn how to deal with issues like this in the future.
Good comments about Jim and Rachel. We can benefit from understanding different personality types, but it is important to remember that we cannot change them. We can be understanding however. Good job!
DeleteYou can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteI thought this chapter was really good and i learned a lot from it. It gave me different ways to communicate with different types of people and their personalities. This chapter taught me a lot about communicating that i will be using in the future. I think one of the most important one for me is learning to listen more because i am the one to always do the talking and i feel like i never let the other person talk, so i think letting people talk more is a good one for me. I also like the way the chapter gives us ways to approach people such as not using "I" and using "You". This makes one sound better when talking to people.
Lawrence Kasshamoun
I completely agree with you and I have the same personality type, I tend to talk the most and I usually do not end up giving the other person the chance to talk, But that is one thing that I learned from this chapter is to talk less and listen more effectively. And it might not be that easy to do first but by time and practice you will get used to it and be able to listen better and talk less.
DeleteIt is great that you are more aware of the need to listen more and avoid "you" statements. Good job!
DeleteYou can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteI have actually learned a lot of useful things from this chapter, Some of I already use in my daily life. Things that I have learned and that I feel are the most important include talking less and listening more and also listening and absorbing more before judging, I used to talk a lot and say things without thinking and before listening and they would usually end up wrong and make me look stupid, but I have learned that it is very important to listen and know what the conversation is exactly about before jumping in and judging. Also the more you do it the more easy it becomes.
Good ideas about learning to listen more. It is really helpful in communication. Good job!
DeleteScenario 1 (E and I):
ReplyDeleteAfter I read this scenario, I felt upset too because sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves and that’s why we forget to do kinds of stuffs that are important to us so in this case, Mary should be more understandable to Carol’s fault and try not to get mad at him and yell because we know that yelling at someone will not solve anything, Carol might be upset too because he didn’t do his job as well, but Mary should understand that and try to solve the problem with him. And according to what I read, I didn’t realize any problem that would led Mary to loud her voice. The great way to improve their communication is to listen to each other and understand what happened so they can solve the problem and stay friends as well that respect each other.
Good ideas on improving communication. I agree that nothing is accomplished in a loud voice.
DeleteScenario 3
ReplyDeleteWell, there is too many person who gets married without loving each other, but they live happily and they have kids.
So if Jim didn’t say to Rachel that he loves her anymore, that doesn’t mean he stopped loving her and the great way to improve this communication is trying to talk to Rachel again and make her understand that love someone doesn’t depend on “ I love you “ word, it depends on your feelings and how you act toward whom you love. Nowadays, I love you is like saying Hi to everyone and it lost its affection on the people we love. Jim has to tell his wife that if he doesn’t express his feeling to her that’s mean he doesn’t love her. He might love her more than anything in this world, but he can’t say that in a word.
You can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteA few ways to help a few of my friends who struggle with communication is to teach them how to first be good listeners in order to know how to respond to certain situations. First, I would tell them that they should listen carefully without getting distracted to what the other person has to say. Next, Take what they say into consideration, think about the meaning behind it and how it affects them. Then, it should become easier to communicate and respond back because you have really understood their side of the story and may even know how to help the situation.
What is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteMy personality type is extravert. Extraverts tend to have a lot to say, because we are more outgoing and talkative. Extraverts also work very well in big group situations, where we are able to get along with many different people and always keep a conversation going. I feel like being an extravert explains my communication style really well, because I am more of a talkative person, and I am usually always able to keep conversations going as well. I find it very easy to communicate with a lot of people whether I have just met them, or whether I have known the person.
Extraverts have a gift for making conversation easily. Just pause and give the introverts some time to think and participate in the discussion too.
DeleteYou can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteWell communicating is not easy with different people even if you knew them. Everyone has different personality and see things on his way so you cannot communicate with everyone using the same style of communication but the most important I believe to communicate is listening.
For example the the boss the way you communicate is more to be formal. I need to be more respectful and listen carefully to wat he or she want me to do then ask about the things that I didn’t understand or I didn’t get what should I do so that way I could have a good communication with my boss .
Friends are people that you might need them one day and they might too. they need me to listen to their life problem and be so kind with them , not blame them of what happen and not make them feel I don’t care or I just want them to listen to me .
If I want to make a good communication with my friend, they need to feel comfortable with me so I care of them. the most important thing is to listen to them first and see what they want because The coming problem I believe is that we just keep commanding on them and want them to do everything the way that we want to be, but we do not listen to them and see how they thing and what are their ideas we might be so surprise if we communicate with them. With my kids I just communicate with them as a friend but sometimes I don’t listen in everything they say so I miss a part so I will apply what I tough from this chapter to my indeed life .
What I will apply from this chapter to my life is: listening to the other more carefully so I don’t miss any part and receive the message completely, let the others talk about them self and be care of what they say and Comforting in crisis; speak to my kids in a nice way make them feel I love and care of them . understand others, respond to what they say to get the right ideas then give the answer so I don’t miss understand .
These are great ideas for communicating with your children. It is important to listen carefully and respond in a way that shows loving and caring as you state in your comments. Good job!
DeleteYou can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteWell communicating is not easy with different people even if you knew them. Everyone has different personality and see things on his way so you cannot communicate with everyone using the same style of communication but the most important I believe to communicate is listening.
For example the the boss the way you communicate is more to be formal. I need to be more respectful and listen carefully to wat he or she want me to do then ask about the things that I didn’t understand or I didn’t get what should I do so that way I could have a good communication with my boss .
Friends are people that you might need them one day and they might too. they need me to listen to their life problem and be so kind with them , not blame them of what happen and not make them feel I don’t care or I just want them to listen to me .
If I want to make a good communication with my friend, they need to feel comfortable with me so I care of them. the most important thing is to listen to them first and see what they want because The coming problem I believe is that we just keep commanding on them and want them to do everything the way that we want to be, but we do not listen to them and see how they thing and what are their ideas we might be so surprise if we communicate with them. With my kids I just communicate with them as a friend but sometimes I don’t listen in everything they say so I miss a part so I will apply what I tough from this chapter to my indeed life .
What I will apply from this chapter to my life is: listening to the other more carefully so I don’t miss any part and receive the message completely, let the others talk about them self and be care of what they say and Comforting in crisis; speak to my kids in a nice way make them feel I love and care of them . understand others, respond to what they say to get the right ideas then give the answer so I don’t miss understand .
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ReplyDeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteMy personality type is actually pretty awesome. The reason why I say this is because I feel as though I can communicate with anyone and relate to them very quickly. I am an extrovert and I love meeting knew people and starting conversations. Sometimes it does affect my personality type because if I am the only on talking it makes me go in my shell and makes me stop talking. It also makes the situation awkward and people tend to get up and leave the conversation and begin another one with other people. I believe that whether your an extrovert or an introvert it will always affect your personality type because one talks to much and the other doesn't say much. In my case, I talk to much to where people never say anything back and it makes me go into my shell which causes lack of communication. I need to get better at not talking so much and allowing others to express what they need to say and actually have a conversation. I do like being an extrovert because it allows me to meet knew people and conversate myself with them. Sometimes it is hard because I love to give my input but I need to learn not to and just listen to what they need to say and make sure to reconfirm what they say to keep the conversation going.
I like your comments about being an extrovert. Extroverts have a gift for conversation, but need to make sure everyone is participating in the conversation. Good job!
DeleteHello,
ReplyDeleteIt is important to have good communication skills now and for the future in order to communicate better with children, people at work, classmates, and more! When I have children in the future, I will be many and many years older than my children, which mean we will have different points of views, and different thoughts, different ideas as well, and different experiences. I try to keep my thoughts open to others and maintain good communication skills with them and understand their age and they way they think. Even though our interests and thoughts would be different, but at the same time, it will be interesting. As we learned in this chapter, two people of the same interests and habits who get married, usually end up having a boring life, unlike those who are different. Also, in order to have better communication skills with the people i work with, I must learn to listen carefully when others talk to me so I can get my job 100% right and accurate. I also need to get rid of as much distractions as possible to be able to focus very well. I also must learn to do one thing at once, either listen or talk, chose just one.
Great comments on listening more to improve communication. Good job!
DeleteI am introvert. I can communicate quite well with someone who is interested or seems interested but I am shy and I will go to great lengths to avoid confrontation. I feel that I always lose arguments or conflicts because I am so terrified of people’s anger. It’s not that anything bad has happened to me, I have just always been afraid of anger. I am both sensing and feeling. I think the details matter but I do not think things are only black and white. I am intuitive and am always looking for meaning, I feel everything has meaning and that there is no real randomness. We might not know why we choose to do something but upon further analyzation, realize that we have a pattern of behavior or have experienced something similar in the past. So when someone makes what they believe to be an innocuous comment, I think there is more behind it. It does not mean I am right, but I always feel I am right.
ReplyDeleteWhen I am having an argument with someone I tend to clam up and freeze up. I do not use fight or flight, I am immobilized, a deer in headlights. I can’t think straight or talk straight. After I have lost the argument, I will think of all sorts of reason for why I felt the way I did that I was unable to communicate while I was in the midst of the argument. I will have all sorts of things to say to prove my point, but it’s too late because the argument is over and being afraid of conflict, I don’t want to bring it up again and start all over. Basically I need to work on my communicating.
This is a very insightful analysis of your communication style. I am an introvert also and always find myself thinking about what I could have said after the conversation is over. Good job!
DeleteScenario 1 (E and I):
ReplyDeleteMary is not giving Carol time to let her speak, which causes her not to learn anything new from the situation. Mary is probably making a bunch of "you" statements, causing Carol to be blamed entirely for the situation, which then makes Carol to leave in anger. Mary should use some "I" statements in order to not be so harsh when communicating. It also shows that she has some responsibility in the situation.
Good application of the communication strategies in this chapter.
DeleteScenario 3 (T and F):
ReplyDeleteRachel and Jim have been married about a year. Rachel complains to Jim that he never says, "I love you" anymore. Jim replies that he would not have married Rachel if he didn't love her. How can they improve communication?
so in this situation, i believe that getting to a middle point is the best solution. and by middle point i mean that rachel should ask little less for "i love you" while jim needs to tell rachel that he loves her little more, that way jim is not being annoyed for telling rachel "i love you" too many times, and rachel is not sad because jim never tells her that he loves her.
Scenario 4 (J and P):
Students in a business class are assigned as a group project to design a business plan. This is an evening class and has mostly adults who have busy schedules with work, family and school. Mike is a highly motivated student who wants to get the group organized and complete the project quickly. Mike is getting irritated at John because he cannot decide on a topic and get going. John keeps coming up with different creative ideas for the business plan. John is getting irritated at Mike because he thinks that Mike is trying to control the group. How can this group work together to complete a successful project?
for this situation, i think that mike should tell john nicely that they want to settle on a topic so they can finish quickly, but without making i sound like john is working slow. and i think should understand that mike has other things to do and wants to pick a topic and start working on it because he has other things to do after that project.
Good ideas for working on a compromise.
DeleteI will plan to apply some of the ideas that I have learned on improving communication towards my close ones in the long run because it is extremely important to teach my friends how to communicate with others properly. One of the main ideas that I will tell most of my friends is that it is extremely important for them to listen to what the other person is saying before they make assumptions about what they are going to say, causing them to not listen to a word that is being said. When someone does not take the time out to actually listen to what their partner is saying, is when building a relationship with that person will fall apart because no one wants to communicate with someone that does not listen at all and when being spoken to all they are thinking about is what they are going to say next rather than paying attention to what their friend is saying to them. If I am able to teach my friends and also some family members how to listen before speaking, they will be able to hold great conversations that will last lifetimes with people that they might have not wanted to listen to at all before the conversation started.
ReplyDeleteYou have described one of the most important points in good communication which is listening before speaking. Good job!
DeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteMy personality type is ISFP and this affects my personality in many ways. I am an introvert which means that I am quiet and reserved but that is often interpreted as being shy. I tend to take longer to warm up to people and can be fairly quiet which people perceive as being a good listener. I am often the person my close friends come to talk to because I do listen more than I talk. When I meet new people it is hard for me to initiate conversations and often allow others to talk about whatever they’d like and have control of the conversation, this is another reason people believe me to be a good listener. I am also a sensing person so I prefer to communicate clearly and concisely with people and can get annoyed if I am not given full and detailed information. I do tend to concentrate on the facts of the discussion and it is hard for me to see the big picture sometimes. I can sometimes be seen as a nitpicker because I want to understand all of the facts. Finally, since I am a sensing person my memories are based on sounds, tastes, smells and feelings. This combined with the fact that I am perceiver means that I can relay stories in a playful and descriptive way which often results in humorous retellings of events in an attempt to entertain my friends.
This is a wonderful analysis of your communication style. Good job!
DeleteScenario 1 (E and I):
ReplyDeleteIn Mary’s and Carol case, I think the best way to communicate better is that Mary starts listening to Carol and Carol starts talking more than listening. Mary tends to speak loudly what leads Carol to feel that she is unable to respond and express her situation, in this case Carol needs to dare and speak loud as well so Mary starts listening to Carol, when they start doing this, they gradually will change a part of their personality by speaking less and listening more. This is the best way of communication with each others with all people. Listening is always best way to understand what people think and what they really mean. If we don’t give people a chance, we will lose the chance of understanding them and they will lose their chance of expressing their situation.
Hi Zina,
DeleteThe problem with us is that we like to talk and not to listen, but in reality we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. We need to start listening to other people and see what they have to say and actually hear out what the other person has to say. Mary has a point to be mad but she need to talk to Carol like a professional and not just go off on her and have her walk out. Thats not a good way to talk to your room mate. Like you said, the best way of communication is listening to others.
Your comments show a good understanding of personality differences and how they affect communication. jGood job!
DeletePersonality types affects ones communication style because one has a better way of understanding or doing particular things due to how they are. Due to my personal experience, I have a very specific way of communicating due to my personality type. For example I am an introvert which is the reason why I take a while to come up to a decision. I quite often need time to think about what I am going to say because I hate being wrong or making a bad impression. Another example is me being a judger, which makes me a really organized person. This makes communication kind of hard with a perceiving type tends to be the opposite which is unorganized and spontaneous. This adds up to many disagreements since perceivers like to take risks. Also I believe I can also improve my communication skills with someone really important in my life which is my brother. For example If I were to have a disagreement with my brother on him cleaning his room and doing his laundry I would improve the situation with three "I" statements. Firstly, instead of calling him names I could say something like, ."I dislike how I can't even walk through the garage because of your clothes". Also making a suggestion would be less offensive such as,"I think you should do your laundry now." One last statement that I could do to help improve the situation is state my intention such as,"If you don't do laundry I will tell my dad and he will take our phone away." I would also imply these skills to other people in my life such as other family members, friends and coworkers.
ReplyDeleteGood ideas here. Be careful because statements such as "I think you should" are still "you" statements. Maybe it would be better to ask, "Could you please do your laundry?"
DeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteMy personality type is ISFJ, I always tend to think about what I say before saying it in case to not hurt anyone by saying something wrong. And I like my boyfriend to be like me so we don't hurt each other's feelings by saying things we would regret it later. However, I am also a sensor and feeler person, I feel people, I am happy when they are happy and sad when they are sad, so I tend to take care about hem and like to do what makes them feel happy, not only in my relationships with the close people around me and even with strangers. I always want people feel happy and satisfied about me and love me, I don't like to make someone feel bad from me; being this way sometimes hurts me because some people don't behave same way I do, what makes me feel sad the most. Finally
, I am a judger person, I tend to be organized and get things ordered; I take care of my outfit and expect the same from others.
You have a good description of how feeling types communicate. It is important to let others know what you are feeling so that they can understand you better. Good job!
DeleteMy personality type is ISFP. I am an introvert, so I am very shy and I do not start conversations easily. I am very quiet and independent. I am a sensor which means I like to know the facts and details of everything. In addition, I am a feeler. I care a lot about other people and their feelings. I enjoy helping people out and volunteering for activities to help others. I am a perceiver. I try not to judge people and I accept them as they are. I do not like having a set schedule. I am very flexible and willing to cancel plans.
ReplyDeleteScenario 4
ReplyDeleteIn high school, I had a very similar situation when I had to do a group project senior year. One other guy and me ended up doing all of the work even though there was four people in the group. We should have confronted the other two guys and if they still refused to put in effort then we would not be in a group with them.
John and Mike should talk to each other about the situation. Mike needs to be willing to give up power and not be too forceful on John. John needs to step up and get started on the project. They should write out a timeline for finishing each part of the project.
I had faced almost the same situation except I was the only one working on the project. I agree with your outcome where one half of the group talks to the other so they can all work collectively on the project. But without any fights between the group members, so they can get the project done even faster. Writing out a timeline for the project would be a genius idea especially for a timed project.
DeleteGood suggestions for completing a group project. This situation often occurs on the job too.
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ReplyDeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
My personality type is INTJ. I am a thinker. I like to think before I make a decision. I am really careful with what I say because I care about people's feelings. I tend to start a conversation with people to make them feel comfortable. I am more like an extravert type because I usually like to start conversation with other people. To make them feel comfortable. I like to ask questions to be sure about what I am doing. When I have a hard time to think I usually share my thoughts with others. And gain from people experiences. Being an intuitive describes me the best because I am really focused on who I want to become. I always wonder where I will be next. I have always set goals for my future. For instance, I make a goal where I want to be next year and the ways to accomplish my goals. Doing the right and thinking about what I am doing is the most important to me. I always see the big picture of life; I imagine how things will be in the next five, ten years. I have always set time to study, work, go to the gym, and I have been following my time and it's been going really well.
This is an insightful analysis of your personality type and communication style. Good job!
DeleteI am an extravert and they are known to easily have conversations with friends and strangers. For instance, whenever I go out into public, I always tend to talk with at least 2 different people. It does not even matter if I l know them or not. It is just a natural habit because that's how my mother is and I just learned my people skills from her. Also, in my previous and current work I was/am forced to reach out to others so that has taught me how to communicate even better.
ReplyDeleteBecause I am an extravert, I really tend to talk a lot. One way I can improve my communication skills is by limiting what I say and start to listen to others. I could especially use this when it comes to having a conversation with an introvert because they are very shy. In addition, I admit that I am guilty of judging too soon. So when it comes to people telling me certain things, I need to start having more of an acceptance mind and allow them more of a chance. Also, I need to be careful when giving advice because I do not want the blame to end up back on me.
DeleteThese are great insights about your communication style. I agree that listening more is helpful, especially when communicating with introverts.
DeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteMy personality is that I am an extrovert, so I love to talk. However, that can come as a disadvantage when some people don't like it when others talk too much. one way I can improve my communication skills is by understanding my limits and not exceeding them. Also I am feeling type, which means that I tend to put my emotions first instead of my head. I could improve this by letting my knowledge of a situation help advise the people involved instead of allowing my emotions to control me.
Good ideas on communication. Be careful about giving advice because what works for you may not work for someone else. Just listen and share what you have done to resolve the situation. Being a good listener is helpful.
DeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteMy personality style is INFP. Being an introvert is difficult when it comes to communicating. I constantly doubt what I'm going to say and it takes me a long time to answer. Conversations are always awkward, because they tend to be one sided, with me mainly being the listener. I think being an interpreter is a positive in regards to my communication style. I'm able to bring up topics that are obscure and keep the conversation interesting. Being a feeling type means I listen to my instincts and go with my gut feeling, but mixing this with being introverted doesn't work. In conversations, I want to say something based on my emotions, but since i have to think things through, I often will doubt it and not say anything at all. This chapter made me realize that I still have a lot of work to do in regards to how I communicate with people.
This is a very good analysis of your personality type and communication style. Being aware of your style will be helpful in improving your communication.
DeleteWhat is your personality type and how does it affect your personal communication style?
ReplyDeleteMy personality type is an extrovert times a million. I love being around people and that is how I get my energies for the day, but I am also a feeler which means that I can take things personally even if the comment was not meant to hurt my feelings. A lot of the times my feelings do get in the way of my communication because I want to avoid conflict. I hate when me and other people do not get along because it stresses me out when people do not like to talk to each other. Another thing is that conflict just causes so many problems and it just makes things awkward for a while and nobody wants that. That is why i just keep things to myself for a while because I do not want things to become awkward between me and my friends or family or anyone for that matter. Also keeping things bottled inside means that you do not communicate that well so it really affects you and anyone around you if you do not tell them what is going on. My personal communication style is to just speak what is on my mind but not say it in a way that would offend anyone or hurt anyone’s feeling that would cause conflict which I do not like to have around.
This is a great analysis of your communication style. Use "I" statements to explain how you feel about the topic.
Deletehow you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading this chapter seeing all the different scenarios and things that lead up to the way you can communicate with one another did have me thinking on how I went about communicating, Noticing all the ways that a conflict can start, I saw that in conflict or disagreement I may be lacking the skill of listening to what the other side of it is. It's easy to be upset and shut someone down and try to mumble on in frustration and I could be found guilty of that from time to time, so from this chapter a helpful too would be listening and trying to aim for a solution not have things drag. In any disagreement I may find myself in next I'll definitely be shooting towards more patience and listening to one side before approaching with mine and hopefully have a solution in mind.
This is a great analysis of your communication style. Listening more will definitely be helpful. Good job!
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ReplyDeleteI am doing Scenario 1 (E and I). Marry has a reason to be upset but she has to work on here communication skills. The "I feel" types make a really good point for her case. She should talk to Carol and tell her that she needs to be more organized with here work and that she should plan ahead to pay for the bill. They can enroll in auto pay every month so that way the wont don't have to worry about paying it. They could figure out another way just so they don't get in arguments. There is no need to argue when there is different ways to figure out your conflict.
If Mary would just listen instead of getting upset, they could work out the situation so that it benefits everyone. Good job!
DeleteYou can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteI strongly believe that communication is key. Without proper communication people may misunderstand or mishear something, which may lead to conflict or confusion. I would teach my friends the importance of being a good listener. I believe that being a good listener also has to do with good communication. If one is not able to listen to what the other person has to say then the conversation will not go too far. We were given two ears and one mouth for a reason and this explains why listening is just as or even more important than speaking. Listening to others can help expand our knowledge on numerous amounts of things in which we did not know before. If a person was just talking all the time and gave no one a chance to speak they would never get insight from their family or friends or hear anyone’s opinions on anything. To avoid conflict one can try avoiding using the word “you” for it sounds almost as if one is blaming the person whom they are speaking to that whatever it is is there fault and no one else’s. I also believe in thinking before speaking because it gives us the chance to really think about what we are going to say before actually saying it. Doing so will prevent us from accidentally saying anything that may offend someone.
Great analysis of your personality and communication style. Good job!
DeleteMy personality type is introvert. i am more to myself which can have both positive and negative affects. the positives are that i can just take a step back and really observe everything around me. i probably will not be the outgoing social person but thats not really who i am. I'm also a judger and like to plan things accordingly. i have a job that makes me organized and have to schedule things to fit my calendar.
ReplyDeletei plan on using my personality traits and what I've learned in this chapter with my work. i can try to be a good listener by getting involved with what they are talking about by asking questions and showing positive body language. i would have to break out of the personal bubble and make myself outgoing even if it means i am uncomfortable.
ReplyDeleteGreat analysis of your personality type and communication style. Listening at work and asking questions will definitely be helpful. Can you capitalize those "I's?"
DeleteA sensing type and an intuitive type are on a first date. What is each likely to talk about?
ReplyDeleteOn a first date, a sensing type would be more likely to talk about things they feel, see, or witness. For example, they would talk about what their food tastes like, how the music sounds, and feelings involved in that moment. They might also talk about people they have known, places they have visited, and experiences they have had. The intuitive type is more likely to talk about things that are not realistic or are imaginary things thought up of. They are often described as having their heads in the clouds and not being as realistic. They are more of day dreamers and creative.
You can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteIt is mandatory to have good communication skills to thoroughly be successful in life. Every situation contains a way of communicating and it is always more beneficial to make sure you know how to communicate. Whether it be to resolve a conflict or to learn more, both of these reasons are good enough to know how. I plan to incorporate communication skills for example, with friends to help solve problems. I also plant to use them with teachers to get things done on time and make sure I know everything by asking questions and reassuring I know what should be done.
Your comments show good application of the communication strategies in this chapter.
DeleteYou can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteI am going to apply some of the things I have learned from this chapter by one of the most important things to me right now which is to not be so quick to judge others. For the longest time most of my life I would walk with friends and we would be so quick to judge others and what they were wearing not knowing anything about who they are as a person or their personal experiences and what they go through on a day to day basis. I have been working really hard lately to just step back and look around and be welcoming to others and be open to what they believe in and just listen to what they have to say. You can learn so much from others. Due to being open to others and not judging as quickly I have made some new amazing friends. I absolutely love them and it has been so much fun to meet new people and become such great friends with them. It won't always be good and work out good for you though. No matter how good of a person you are there are always going to be those people who judge you or jut take you for granted. my personal experience is I am one of those people who always seek for peoples approval and always trying to make them happy and I work so hard to try and not let what others do affect me and I tend to want to shut people out if I put so much effort into a relationship and get nothing in return but then I just think to myself that I just need to forgive and accept what it is and eventually everything will work and I try to remember everything happens for a reason. i will put effort into a friendship and it hurts a lot to not get anything in return and not get the same effort that I put into it but I am a good person and just need to keep reminding myself that no matter if people choose not to notice it and i shouldn't let people walk all over me but something great will come to me at the end and none of that will be important anymore.
You can describe how you plan to apply some of the ideas in this chapter to improving communication with your children, boss, friends or parents or anyone who is important in your life.
ReplyDeleteThroughout your life, it's mandatory to have good communication skills to be successful in life as well as throughout school. Every situation has a way of communicating and it is always more beneficial to know how to communicate. Whether it's to resolve a problem/conflict or to learn more, both can be good enough to know how to communicate. I plan to use these communication skills with family, significant other and friends to help solve problems. I also plan to use them with my instructors to get things done on time and make sure I know everything by asking questions related to the lecture or a final and reassuring I know what should be doing and getting things done.
There are definitely some ways that I can improve my communication with my husband and kids. Concerning my husband, I tend to not always say what is on my mind. I will let the anger linger for a little while and say that I am fine, or I will expect him to know when and why I am upset. We really don't fight very often, but this is definitely something I can fix. I would fix this by calmly trying to talk out our situation and maintain open lines of communication. I won't assume anything and I will approach things with an open mind. With my kids, I will try not to jump to any conclusions until I hear the whole story. I will approach everything with an open mind and heart, and be as neutral as possible. I have a tendency to constantly parent or be get upset when being told of an issue, and I know that when my girls get older I want them to be able to talk with me no matter if they are mad at me or somebody else. And if we don't remain on a trusting level with good communication, then either having a bad relationship or not one at all.
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